Ian Parkin is the author of this post.
My personal growth and development plan for self-actualization is simple to follow and magnanimous in its results. I created “The Way of Personal Development” by bringing together the far-reaching psychology of Abraham H Maslow (1908 - 1970) and the timeless spirituality of Lao-Tzu’s (600 BC) ‘Tao Te Ching’.
Abraham Maslow pointed out that “only a few of us reach Self Actualization (being your true self – fully human). This is because so many people get stuck in striving for their lower needs and never get to realize their exalted realms of purpose and meaning”. I feel as if the game of life is rather like playing a subconscious game of Snakes and Ladders (Chutes and Ladders for my American friends) within Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. It is apparent to me that many people climb and fall in the three lower levels of Maslow’s hierarchy, spending much of their time cycling between basic physiological survival, foundational safety in health, work, finances and family matters, and striving for love and belongingness.
Maslow was right in identifying that not enough of us rise high enough to feel self-confidence, worth, and strength. Or find the capability and adequacy of being useful and necessary in the world. Very few aspire to find the ultimate happiness of self-actualization. Even less go beyond our ordinary human level of consciousness and experience oneness with the greater whole, the higher truth in self-transcendence, whatever that may be to each of us individually.
My personal development plan to climb the ladders in the hierarchy of needs without endlessly chuting down the snakes!
By self-assessing against the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs and adopting Maslow’s Self-Actualizing characteristics I have devised my personal growth plan to guide you across the stepping stones of destiny, towards realizing a life of purpose and meaning too. The Maslow hierarchy of needs gives you a way to map your life path.
1) At the base of the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs are the Physiological Needs.
In the Physiological Needs we must be able to breath freely, have access to food and water, have shelter from the elements, have clothing, have sex, and be able to sleep. Homeostasis takes hold here which means we want everything to remain stable and be relatively constant.
2) Once our physiological needs are met, we move on up to satisfying the Safety Needs.
At this level we seek to maintain a safe, predictable orderly and organized life that we can rely on. We are in avoidance of anything unexpected, anything more than we can easily manage, and certainly nothing dangerous. Here we find the basic physical safety needs for our body, employment, health, and home.
3) So, we are feeling safe, now we unconsciously strive to meet the Love and Belonging Needs.
At this level, a desire for a sense of connection becomes stronger. We seek affection and appreciation within our family and friends. We will now look for a place in our tribe/group/gang. Love and intimacy is now important in sex (where it was not at the basic physiological level).
4) Feeling love and appreciation within friends and family we are now able to progress to the next level. The Esteem Needs.
Now we not only have a need for self-respect and self-esteem, but we also desire the stable and firm respect of others in the bigger world. This is the first real stage where independence and freedom are becoming important. We need to have our achievements acknowledged by ourselves and by others, so that we feel strong and valued in the world. Thwarting our feelings of esteem, worth, confidence, adequacy, and usefulness at this level can produce states of depression and feelings of helplessness.
5) When feel of value in the world, by ourselves and by others, we may begin the transition to Self-Actualization.
This is the level of being fully human, being your true self. “Even if all [the lower] needs are satisfied, we may still often (if not always) expect that a new discontent and restlessness will soon develop, unless the individual is doing what [one] is fitted for. A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if [one] is to be ultimately happy. What [one] can be, [one] must be. This need we may call self-actualization”. – Maslow, Abraham H. A Theory of Human Motivation [my edits]
6) Unfortunately, most people get stuck striving in the lower needs and never get to realize a life of true purpose and meaning. In writing this personal improvement plan I hope to help you over that line and, all being well, to go even further to experience oneness with the greater whole and to ultimately realize your higher truth in Self-Transcendence.
Here lays the desire to go beyond our ordinary human level of consciousness and experience oneness with the greater whole, the higher truth, whatever that may before you. This can lead to peak experiences of mystical, spiritual, and ecstatic moments with illuminations or insights or cognitions which change our view of the world and of ourselves.
If you are researching the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs you will most likely only find the first five levels talked about. That was his earlier model circa 1943 but the more accurate model, considering his later work, shows all six levels of the hierarchy. In 1969 Maslow planned to produce a new book encompassing all his newer works. By 1970 he had selected his articles from which to author the new book but in June of that year suffered a fatal heart attack. Those articles now comprise the chapters of a book first published in 1971 titled The Farther Reaches of Human Nature by A.H. Maslow.
Because, deep down in our subconscious, our behaviours are directed by unsatisfied needs, only once fulfilled do we subconsciously begin to strive higher in the Hierarchy of Needs. So, let's say that you attend a motivating self help seminar and you come away with some awesome personal development goals, if those goals are aligned to your esteem needs (level four) but you are still striving to satisfy your basic safety needs (level two) you will never know why you just can’t get yourself to stretch out of your comfort zone and go-get-em!
As a psychic life coach I have noticed this play out too often - unless we are either ‘genuinely at’ a high level in the Hierarchy of Needs OR we are able to ‘Trick The Brain’ (I recommend NLP) at our subconscious level, to feel as if our basic needs levels are already met, we simply do not find our way to those lofty goals.
1. Superior Perception of Reality.
Self-actualizers (SAs) can judge situations correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive to the fake and dishonest and are free to see reality ‘as it is’.
2. Increased Acceptance of Self, of Others, and of Nature.
Self-actualizers accept their own human nature with all its flaws. The shortcomings of others and the contradictions of the human condition are accepted and tolerated. And while they can laugh good-heartedly at themselves, they will never direct sarcasm to others in jest.
3. Increased Spontaneity.
In SAs spontaneity is simple and natural. They enjoy the freedom to be true to themselves, acting impulsively when they want to rather than holding back and acting how others may want them to be.
4. Increase in Problem-Centering.
Most of Maslow’s subjects were ‘focused beyond self’ as if they had a mission to fulfill in life or some task or problem ‘beyond’ themselves (instead of outside or inside themselves).
5. Increased Detachment and Desire for Privacy.
Despite their satisfying relationships with others, self-actualizing people are ‘comfortably detached’ and value solitude and being alone. Even in the company of genuinely close friends SAs can seem detached by a lack in their need for constant communication.
6. Increased Autonomy, and Resistance to Enculturation.
Self-actualizers have a high level of autonomy and are tend not to rely on external authorities or other people. They are resourceful, independent, and reliant on their own experiences and judgement. They are Independent thinkers and are not reliant on culture or environment to form their own opinions and views.
7. Greater Freshness of Appreciation, and Richness of Emotional Reaction.
With this ‘innocence of vision’ the self-actualizer holds a continued freshness of appreciation. A sunset or a flower is most often experienced as intensely as it was at first appreciated. With eyes of an artist or child SAs constantly renew their appreciation of life’s basic good things.
8. Higher Frequency of Peak Experiences.
All of Maslow’s subjects reported the frequent occurrence of peak experiences. These occasions were marked by feelings of ecstasy, harmony, and deep meaning. Sometimes described as a mystic experience. Self-actualizers have times they describe as feeling filled with light, in tune with the universe, or at one with all others, making them feel stronger and calmer than ever before.
9. Increased Identification with The Human Species.
Self-actualizers are socially compassionate and feel connected to all of humanity.
10. Profound Interpersonal Relationships.
The interpersonal relationships of self-actualizers are marked by deep loving bonds. While usually possessing fewer friends, those friendships will be close and more intimate. SAs do not collect many surface relationships.
11. More Democratic Character Structure.
While SAs value their own autonomy (tend not to rely on external authorities or other people) they do recognise, and hold equal the individual rights and strengths in all people.
12. Greatly Increased Creativeness.
SAs enjoy times of high creativity that may be expressed in many areas. Creativity is not limited to the arts and sciences. Maslow has said that a first-rate cook is better than a second-rate painter.
13. Certain of Changes in The Value System.
Self-actualizing people are aware that they are not perfect and that there are always going to be new things to learn and new ways to grow. They are certain there will be changes in their value system and thus changes in their outlook.
Some suggestions for bringing these 13 Characteristics of Self-Actualization into your personal growth and development plan are: hypnosis, NLP, Tapping, Psycho-Therapy, Counselling, and my own Psychic Life Coaching.
1) Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs describes the pattern that we are subconsciously motivated by as we move through life. From the base to top of the hierarchy they are:
Once we realize what drives us, from the subconscious level, we can uncover the hidden blocks in our journey of realizing our true selves.
2) Maslow’s Characteristics of Self-Actualization. So let’s aim for the top and go for the good life conceived by Maslow as self-actualization. From studying the likes of Einstein, Lincoln, Jefferson, Roosevelt, and others he saw as exemplary (self-actualized) people, Maslow observed the following common traits among them all.
Incorporating these characteristics as part of your personal growth and development plan is a powerful. How you integrate them is up to you, but in my practice, I use Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) to trick the brain.
3) Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching. The ancient Chinese philosopher Lao-Tzu is the fabled author of the Tao Te Ching and is said to be the founder of Taoism. I find the text a source of inspiration and it is in complete alignment with what Maslow called, the Being Values or Metaneeds of his Self-Actualizing characteristics. This little book of wisdom is one of the most translated works in world literature. But I find in many of the translations (of other translations) the pure form of ancient wisdom has become rather ambiguous. I recommend the Richard Wilhelm Edition translated into English by H.G. Ostwald. ISBN:0140190600. (Out of print and can be hard to come by now.)
Making my personal growth and development plan your own.
First get to know the subconscious needs in Maslow’s hierarchy. As with planning any journey, you will want to know where you are now so you can plan to get to where you want to be (The Good Life).
Then familiarize yourself with all thirteen characteristics found in Self-Actualized people. Once acquainted with them all, you will want to embrace them fully into your personality. To do that book a session with an expert NLP consultant of your choice (or book a session with me) to get the characteristics embedded deep in you psyche.
To maintain your Actualized-Self ponder upon the Tao Te Ching often.