How To Write Affirmations
That Attract What You Really Want
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If you learn how to write affirmations correctly you will get positive results with the law of attraction.
What are affirmations?
- When you say or think a phrase of words it is an affirmation and you are declaring something is true to your subconscious mind. You actually may be doing this already, but in an uncontrolled manner. Every day we make judgmental remarks about our finances, health and life, either in jest or as a colorful comment, but our brain and the universe, hears it.
People from your past, parents, teachers, friends and ex-lovers have provided fodder for your belief system. What they said and how firmly it embedded in your mind will make a difference in your future actions. Those ideas aren't necessarily in your best interest, nor do they allow you to achieve the heights you were meant to achieve. If you find yourself with limiting ideas on what you're capable of doing or achieving, you need to realign your belief system to reflect success. And a simple way to do that is to learn how to write affirmations in a way that will have the most positive effect on your future outcomes. I call them Attractive Affirmations because they are worded to empower the Law of Attraction to work for you not against you.
Can affirmations change your life?
There are two very different schools of thought on the way the affirmed message will make things happen. However, both agree affirmations work.
- Those that believe that using a positive affirmations will change your thought processes and subconsciously help you achieve your goals. They believe that you'll be more aware of opportunities for success when you have a successful belief system.
- Those that believe you're sending the message to the Universe accept the good results are a message back from the Great Spirit to them. They use the power of belief in a force bigger than themselves, much like the power of prayer.
It doesn't matter which is right. What matters is the fact that using attractive affirmations can change your life.
How do you do an affirmation?
- Knowing how to write affirmations becomes a powerful tool for both personal and business development. You can write out a list of attractive affirmations and then regularly say them aloud to make them even stronger and more potent. Some people record them with soft music in the background and listen to the recording as they doze off to sleep. This relaxed state helps the message become more firmly set in the brain, since the conscious mind is in a resting state. The addition of music reinforces the message entering it through both the right and left hemisphere. You can also use bright colors and artistic flair to write it to achieve the same success. Your mind is focusing on the art, while gently absorbing the message.
Positive affirmations can range from quitting smoking and losing weight to making more money, improving relationships or increasing your confidence. You decide what you want from life and create a concise, but vivid picture of it in a short affirmation. Some people find it helps to make it rhyme and give it a catching rhythm. (Like Émile Coué's optimistic autosuggestion that is still often used - "Everyday, in every way"). So it sticks in your head and revisits your brain throughout the day.
You can be the master of your destiny when you know how to write affirmations correctly. It can not only help you identify what you really want in life, it helps you achieve it.
Knowing how to write affirmations correctly, then reading or listening to them repetitively will affect your subconscious mind, which in turn reshapes and affects the way you think, act and behave. Your conscious mind, the mind you think with, starts this process, and then your subconscious mind takes charge.
The specifically formed words and phrases become frequent subconscious thoughts, verbal remedies, passing through your mind, ultimately affecting your life and your destiny. Working like commands given to a computer, they influence you, others, events and circumstances. However strange this may seem to you, affirmations do also influence the people you meet, your circumstances and the events you encounter.
How do you write an affirmation?
How to Write Affirmations
There are certain key elements you will go by when you know how to write affirmations correctly.
I like to call them Attractive Affirmations - meaning they are affirmations that WILL attract what you want.
The Three Ps
The 3 Ps of Attractive Affirmations are (1) Personal (2) Present (3) Positive
Starting with an "I Am" makes it both personal and present. Stating the positive ensures you attract what you DO want. (Negative statements bring to you what you do not want)
Short and Sweet
Keep your affirmations as short and sweet as possible. If you start writing a short story you are cramming too many wishes into one affirmation. Communicating with our subconscious minds and the universal intelligence is more effective the more simplistic it is.
Add the Magic Dust - Emotion
Emotion is an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced. For Attractive Affirmations use JOY-ful and LOVE-ing emotions. Did you know that the word origin of Emotion is a 1570-80 French word called esmovoir - meaning: to set in motion? All emotions set things in motion. JOY and LOVE will set in motion what you DO want. (Sorrow, Fear, Hate set in motion more of what you do not want).
Frame with Gratitude
When you include personal feelings of gratitude for already having that which you are affirming for, you are perfectly framing your affirmation with emotion and the 3 Ps.
A common worry for affirmation newbies is that you will sabotage the process because you are quite aware that you do not yet have what you are hoping to manifest. For example: “I am deliriously happy in a relationship with the love of my life” Then that little devil on your shoulder reminds you: “But I’ve been single for ten years, I never meet anyone new and the one I fancy is married!” I learned a long time ago to counter this by adding my affirmation insurance at the end. “I am deliriously happy in a relationship with the love of my life – and everything helped this to happen”
Faux Pas in Affirmations
There are many (so called) experts making blunders in their affirmative advice on the web. It is clear that they DO NOT know how to write affirmations correctly. For instance . . . because we cannot NOT think of the words used in our affirmations it is very important not to make negative statements.
- For instance, if I say "Do NOT think of a purple elephant with green ears." In just reading this sentence (in your mind) you HAVE to picture a - purple elephant with green ears - just to understand the words your are reading. And Hey Presto - you have got this animal in your mind's eye. Add some emotion (if you hated purple elephants) and you are on your way to get more of what you do not want.
How do you write affirmations for a relationship?
- "Every day in every way I share my life with my love." I accept and enjoy my relationship filled with love." "I am in love." " . . . and everything helped this to happen."
How do you write affirmations for happiness?
- "I accept and enjoy the happiness that flows through my life." Happiness is mine is all around me." "Every day in every way I'm filled with gratitude for my freedoms." I am filled with happy thoughts and the happy things that find me."
This is how to write affirmations that backfire!
There are some classic faux pas to be found in much of the available (expert?) affirmation advice on the web.
“I love facing challenges for the growth they bring to me”. This will surely fill your life with challenges!
I’d reframe this into something that included “my life runs so smoothly, I’m having an abundance of fun.”
“I will die before I give up” This one is definitely NOT recommended!
“I am now free from my bad habits” Whoops, this will keep those bad habits strongly attached.
“I let go of worries that drain my energy” Oh Dear, at best this will put you in bed for a week!
These are from actual lists of positive affirmations on the internet. Very scary indeed! So do be careful who you follow for advice on affirmations!
While I’m talking good and bad affirmations, I’d like to share my ‘empowered version’ of The Serenity Prayer.
Penned originally by twentieth century American theologian, Reinhold Niebuhr, (who did not know how to write attractive affirmations), this prayer has been adopted by Alcoholics Anonymous and other twelve-step programs in this rather unfortunate, and highly dis-empowering form.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
By simply re-scripting with my 'PPP' golden rule you will have my magically empowering version of:
"I serenely accept the things I cannot change",
"I courageously change the things I can",
"and my inner wisdom clarifies the difference".
How to write affirmations that still maintain a religious belief? Simply frame with gratitude. For instance: “Thank you (God, Allah, Great Spirit, Jesus, Mohammed, Buddha, All That Is, Angelic Force, Mother Nature) for giving me . . . the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference".
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